Comparison deceptively leads us to believe it can alleviate our pain by justifying our experience or downplaying it all together. But whichever way you spin it, it does little to aid the grieving process. The longer I've walked the journey of miscarriage grief, the more I've realized pregnancy loss gets compared quite often and in many ways—at least six to be exact. I've had to lean into Jesus a good bit in these hard comparison moments, but in doing so, He's been so kind to show me a few ways to overcome the comparison trap and entrust Him with my grieving journey.
Read MoreA month after my second miscarriage, I read a woman’s miscarriage story and devoured it. Having known dozens of women who had suffered miscarriages, I didn’t think the raw relatability of this woman’s story was something I would be so hungry for. But then I realized knowing women have miscarried isn’t the same as knowing their stories. And somewhere in the lonely abyss that is miscarriage grief, I found myself desperate to talk to someone about the less socially acceptable parts of mine. So today, I share my miscarriage story with you because I know what it’s like to feel alone after loss and because more than anything, I want other miscarriage mamas to know they are not alone. Part two details a hemorrhage and the medical decisions women may have to face in miscarriage.
Read MoreA month after my second miscarriage, I read a woman’s miscarriage story and devoured it. Having known dozens of women who had suffered miscarriages, I didn’t think the raw relatability of this woman’s story was something I would be so hungry for. But then I realized knowing women have miscarried isn’t the same as knowing their stories. And somewhere in the lonely abyss that is miscarriage grief, I found myself desperate to talk to someone about the less socially acceptable parts of mine. So today, I share my miscarriage story with you because I know what it’s like to feel alone after loss and because more than anything, I want other miscarriage mamas to know they are not alone. Part one details the anxiety that comes with pregnancy after loss as well as a missed miscarriage.
Read More“I’m so sorry. Is there anything I can do?” It’s taken months since my second miscarriage for me to be able to put words to how I would answer that question. When it’s fresh, a sense of shell shock and overwhelm make such open-ended questions difficult to answer. But now that I’ve had time to step back and consider what was helpful as I was miscarrying, I think I’ve found my reply.
Read MoreOn my flight home from my grandmother’s funeral—the fifth of six losses this year—I pulled out my phone, opened my Notes app, and began to write. As I did, the words poured out of me. What began as a factual account of the losses I and my family have faced this year turned into an encouraging reminder that pain is never wasted, that God does indeed work all things together for good, that our loved ones live on in us long after they’re gone, and that good things can come from something as horrible as death. This is my 2023 testimony. This is grief’s gift.
Read MoreMost of us don’t really know how to respond to pregnancy loss. There isn’t exactly a how-to guide on the subject. But without explicit guidance, how are Christians to reply? Is there a biblical response to pregnancy loss no one told us about? Is God really calling us to acknowledge the issue in a specific way? In this post, we’ll compare the heart of the Father to cultural norms as we are challenged to go against the grain and respond to pregnancy loss God’s way.
Read MoreFrom the point of conception to when your baby’s heart beat its last to the grief that forever lingers for the child you lost, you may be wondering: Where is God in miscarriage? Whether you or someone you care about has experienced pregnancy loss, we will look to Scripture to help us understand where the Lord was at each part of any given pregnancy loss story and what role He played as it unfolded.
Read MoreMiscarriage raises many big questions about God even for the most seasoned believers. If you are wondering what the Bible actually says about pregnancy loss, you are in good company. While I in no way claim to have all the answers, my ultimate goal is to point you to the One who does as we unpack seven common questions that arise with pregnancy loss.
Read MoreAfter my first miscarriage, I thought I knew what all miscarriages looked like. But as I began to connect with more women on the subject, I realized I didn’t know as much as I thought. Humbled, my heart filled with grace and deeper compassion as I gained an understanding of the uniqueness of each miscarriage experience. Whether you or someone you care about has suffered pregnancy loss, we will dive into what miscarriage looks like in its many forms to help us ask for or provide the individual support needed.
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